All in all, the key to giving good blow jobs is knowing what does and doesn’t feel good for your man. Girls don’t have penises, so hopefully these tips will help y’all understand what guys generally do and don’t like. Be sure to talk to him about oral etiquette as well, as many girls don’t like when guys press their heads down or pull vigorously on their hair, but never actually tell their boyfriends to stop. For the men reading this, stay tuned for my next column about eating out: I just did all of you a big favor in teaching your girlfriends how to give dome, but let’s not forget that the majority of problems regarding oral sex lie in the fact that it’s you who “suck,” not them.
Above all else, Michael says, it's important to have an open, honest and sexy conversation with your partner. Just like the first time you started having sex with one another, when you first started dating, you had to get a lot wrong before you got it right. Oral sex is like that too, and it's mostly about trial and error: does she like it when I apply pressure here but not there? Does she get turned on when I lick her faster or slower, and where exactly matters the most to her? Does she get closer when I use my fingers or when I use my fingers and my tongue?
The deeper, the better may be the case in porn , but not so in real life. "Gagging takes you both out of the moment, and you and he will enjoy oral sex much more when you're both having fun," says Marsh. To simulate deep throating, you want to use some combination of your mouth, tongue and hands. Marsh recommends a tight grip on the base of his shaft. Then wrap your mouth just a bit below the frenulum (the place where the head of the penis connects to the shaft) so your lips meet your fist, and move your mouth and hand in a rhythmic motion.